Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired? On this episode, Chelle gives us a front row seat of what it looks like to set aside a lifetime of people pleasing in order to find your voice.
Chelle Shapiro is a career success coach, speaker, author, and podcaster. She's passionate about helping women find more fulfilling work so they can avoid the hard core burnout she did in her career.
Key moments in the conversation include:
Sick and tired. Don't wait until you're body and mind are on the verge of collapse before you make your plan to leave that job that's killing you.
Boundaries combat people pleasing. Always doing what everybody else wants you to do and ignoring what lights you up will leave you empty, unfulfilled and resentful. Just because you're good at something or you've done it in the past doesn't mean you have to do it now.
Breaking the cycle. When you break free from people pleasing or whatever your thing is - be prepared that a lot of people won't like your new boundary. Know this and just be prepared to remember this is a way of honoring yourself.
Unlearning. As a society women are conditioned to only show up in a certain way, or only show part of themselves. We've been told our whole lives we're too loud or too direct or too smart or too....whatever. The more you peel back those layers and unlearn the more you figure out who you really are, it's all a work in progress.
Follow your energy. If scheduling blocks and tomato timers don't work for you, don't force it. Some tasks are just at certain times of day. Explore what works for you by paying attention to how you feel and letting energy be your guide.
Loving yourself is not selfish. Here are some easy ways you can love yourself that are beyond the self care routines you know: Set boundaries, practice self-acceptance, speak up, know who you are, be aware of what you need and ask for it.
The best way to connect with Chelle is on through LinkedIn. If that’s not your jam, you can also find her on Instagram @ChelleStation and through her website. You can find previous episodes of Operation Separation (including my interview!) on YouTube and her book, Loving Yourself Is Not Selfish is available on Amazon.
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