Sam Alteri

Tue, 2/1 3:12PM • 47:18

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Sam Alteri, Jamie Stephens

Jamie Stephens  00:37

Hey there and welcome back to breaking up with corporate. I'm Jamie Riene, your host and truth telling gal pal here to have the real conversations with badass women doing their thing will talk candidly about the hard lessons impact business failure mindset, corporate BS and all the things. I'm excited to highlight and learn from these amazing women that have stepped into their power and are proving what's possible. Let's do this welcome to another episode of Breaking up with corporate. In this episode I sit down with a beautiful bundle of energy that is Sam Altieri. Sam left a career in architecture after her vision of what she wanted to be doing didn't quite line up with the reality. She went from living only for the weekends to making happiness, her number one priority, will hear about becoming a digital nomad, manifesting her dream life as well as solid advice for creating a passion based business. Let's go to the show. Okay, so Sam, would you like to tell us a little bit about yourself,

Sam Alteri  01:42

I am a women's empowerment mentor, I have a lot of passions. But most importantly, it's around helping women build up a lot of self worth, and feel connected to their body again. And a lot of the women that I work with are business owners. So you can imagine that like connecting back to your body feeling confident can just like super skyrocket your business. So that's like what I'm most passionate about. Right now. I live in Denver, Colorado. And we will be here for about another week until my fiance and I start living in our van full time where I will be running my business from the road. And yeah, so that's like, I mean, I feel like that pretty much encapsulates, like who I am. I love to travel. I don't know if you're familiar with human design, but I'm a manifesting generator. I'm in any room seven. So I love to travel. I love to meet people. And yeah, that's a little bit about me.

Jamie Stephens  02:43

That's awesome. So where I did know that you were doing the whole van life thing, where is the first trip that you guys are? Where's the first route that you guys are gonna take once the The van is ready.

Sam Alteri  02:54

Yeah, so we are going to be driving it back to the east coast. So back to Boston. That's where current my fiance and I are originally from then from there, that is when we're actually going to really like depart on our trip. And it looks like our first stop is Houston, Texas, we're actually going to see, I don't know if you know, Jordan Peterson bought, we're going to see him and Kurt's like super in love with him. And so we're like, Okay, let's go. So that's going to be our first stop. And we're just going to hit up the East Coast. And then we'll be in Houston in for January. So we'll see what happens.

Jamie Stephens  03:31

That's really exciting. So tell me how you got to this point to where you can work from a van wherever you are be the digital nomad. And what were you doing before?

Sam Alteri  03:44

Yeah, well, it's crazy. Like I've been doing a lot of reflections on that recently. Just because it feels like, you know, when you have a dream, or like, write something down of like, this is actually what I really want, but it feels so far away. Um, I was just reflecting the other day on the fact that like, once we're in the van fully, like, my manifestation list from like, five years ago has like completely come true, which is just absolutely crazy. I know it's like whoa. And it's crazy because I think there's like always part of us that like we reach it but we're like on to the next thing you know. So I'm like already like excited for all the new things but to backpedal and share where I started from I have always been super, I guess, like heart centered and like wanting to help people. And I went to undergrad and grad school for architecture actually, I was a designer and like, I I've always kind of consider myself a creative and I imagined like going into architecture would give me a chance to like go to third world countries and build schools for people and like connect with people and like be in their culture and you know all the things And so I did undergrad I finished grad school. And it was what was incredible was my professor in college owned a firm and she offered me a position like right out of college. So I didn't even have to, like apply anywhere. Which was awesome. Yeah. I was like, whoo. So I, I loved. I just want to preface this with like, I loved my time in architecture school, like, it was very intense, a lot of all nighters. But there was like a big part of me that felt so connected to what I was creating. And it just felt like so purposeful. You know, I was also like, such an overachiever. So I think that part of me was just like, solid up, because I was just working all the time. But as soon as I got to, like the real world, and like, nine to five world, I kind of quickly realized, like, oh my gosh, like, before I even like signing the contract. I remember writing in my journal, like, I feel like I'm going to regret this. And it was this feeling of like, I don't know what I would do instead. But like, there's part of me that knew that. Like, I was settling in a way. But at the time, I didn't feel like I had an option. So I was just like, Okay, I'm going to just do it, right. So I go in, I work there, I got a lot of experience, like, I worked on a whole project from start to finish. And this is over the course of like, about three years. So this is like from age 21, to 20, like four. And over the course of that time, I was really working on like my own health, I had gone through like, just like a really, I had a really bad relationship with food, and my body. And I really had like, a lot of unhealed trauma around me, my childhood, all that. And so I started, I decided to start to like lose weight, because I was like, I just want to be happy. I want to feel confident. So I went on this weight loss journey. And a few years into my time, at this architecture firm. I started losing weight, and people started like, asking what I was doing, right? Like, I'm sure if you've ever, like lost weight, or like had a phase where you're like, leaner, people are like, Oh, what are you doing? Like, Oh, you look so good. And it was like, very validating for me. And at the time, like, That's totally what I needed, because I had really low self worth. And it ended up that like, people started asking me for actual help. And I was like, oh, like, okay, like, I knew what I was doing. Like, I was training in the gym. And, you know, I got really strong and I looked great, like I really did. I was mildly obsessed with working out and eating healthy. But that's not where I want to go at story. Point is like, I knew how to help people. And so I decided to get my, I decided to like look into nutrition and like what that could be and the gym that I was working at actually asked me to become a personal trainer. They're just kind of after seeing my own transformation. And I was like, um, what's happening like, these people were coming to me asking me for help. This person's asking me to work at their gym, like, oh my gosh, so like, I was already like, I was feeling so burnt out on my job. I was working like 60 to 80 hour weeks wasn't getting paid for it. Like architecture is such a glorified industry. But like, you make shit money, I hope I can swear on this. And like I had a master's degree and I was like, I was literally just making it like because I was living in Boston to write so like, exhausted, and my income was low. And my like expenses were super high. And I just like I remember coming home, like multiple evenings, just crying, like, and that wasn't normal for me, because like, you had it all. But the job really, like it was really intense. And I'm an empath, and I didn't know that at the time. But all of that together, it was just like a recipe for me to just have like a mental breakdown. And that's basically what happened in 2016. I was this was about three years in to my job. And I had just like I had had enough I like hit the breaking point. I'm sure you can relate to this. And I'm sure that a lot of women can relate to this, where you're just like, I can't fucking do this anymore. I can't do this anymore. And so I was like, Okay, I have these people that want to like work with me, and I have these other skill sets. like I was doing photography, and I was like, I can kind of piece together something I was like, but I literally cannot keep living like this because I was living so hard for the weekends. And I was coming home and just binge watching TV and binge eating. And I was like, This can't be my life. Like, I know that I could have a totally different life. And I had always wanted to be. I didn't even want to be an entrepreneur. That wasn't really it. But I just wanted to do my own thing I wanted to freedom. And I wanted to travel. And yeah, and I remember reading Tim Ferriss Four Hour Workweek. That book is amazing. It literally changed my life, because I was like, I can do this, like, I could totally do this. And so I did in June of 2016, I left my job, and I got freelance work. And I was doing some, like, kind of behind the scenes, like helping people with their fitness. And I did that for a few months, you know, I made I was making enough, it was cool. And then I officially went and got my personal training certification, did that. And then I got my nutrition certification and officially got hired at the gym. And while this is all happening in my brain, I was thinking like, oh my gosh, like, I am so grateful that I'm not in that world anymore. Because like, I had too much energy to sit behind a computer. And witnessing my boss who was like, at the office until like, eight, or later, checking email. And I knew that that was not the life I wanted. Like, that was like that was it for me. I was like, I'm going to turn 60 and be checking my email at 8pm. This past? Yeah, I was like, No, I want to be on the beach with like, a drug in my hand and like in a bikini, like come on. And the other piece, too, that I forgot to mention is like, before I left, they wanted me to take over the firm. Like, they were hoping that I was going to like take this and I was only 25. Right. But they saw obviously that I had a work ethic and like that I could have. And that would have been a huge opportunity for me because it was like a great firm, downtown Boston, like it was known. And I could have had that life. And I think that I chose the very, very unknown path. But I knew that like, I had to trust my gut, you know, I had to trust my gut. And, and I did and I went on to, you know, become a personal trainer, and then a nutrition coach. And then in 2019, I went full time in the online space. And now I'm a full time online coach. And I help women with a lot of things from business to body image to, you know, weight loss to just empowering themselves financially to, and yeah, so that's kind of like the short condensed version as much as I could.

Jamie Stephens  13:14

So how, so the long working hours the looking at your boss and saying like, this is not what I want. Was there anything else like within that corporate environment? I mean, I know that architecture tends to be like, male dominant. So I mean, was it just a combination of everything? Or was there?

Sam Alteri  13:35

Yeah, that's a great question. You know, I think that a lot of it was the environment. Like it was like the environment, the lack of boundaries. And just this like, this energy of like, I had to prove that I was like, talented enough or good enough to be here and like, earn my spot. When I was like, this is totally messed up. Like, you're taking advantage of the fact that I'm young. And I have a lot of energy, and I don't have a family yet. But like, it doesn't mean that my happiness is any less valid. And I just remember, I would go home and just be I was so depressed, like, I have letters in my phone, because that's what like I would write notes on the train ride home, have like, suicidal thoughts. And like, I was so unhappy. And I didn't even realize how bad it had gotten until I got out of it. And I was like, how did I let myself live in that environment. It was so toxic. It got to the point to where there was one moment, which I'll share just like as little detail as possible, but you can get the point where one of the people that work there, like was verbally abusing me and like it got to the edge of like, almost like physical abuse. If I hadn't like put my arm up, and I was like, This is not okay, if I'm ever a boss one day which I am now. Like, I will never treat my employees like numbers, right? Or like these little robots like, they're humans, their souls like with hearts. And there was just like a lack of sensitivity. I think that was like one of the biggest things. I was like, how, how am I getting treated like this? And I was allowing it. That was the crazy thing. You know, I just didn't realize it, then.

Jamie Stephens  15:22

Yeah, it's almost like have you heard that analogy of like boiling a frog or something where it's you put them in the pot, and it just gets warmer and more. And it's like that to where it just kind of you don't really notice the buildup, and then all of a sudden, it's just too much.

Sam Alteri  15:38

Yeah. And that's what it was for me for sure. Wow.

Jamie Stephens  15:42

So part of me is like, one of the reasons I was really excited to talk to you specifically was my daughter is in architecture school she's in She's a freshman right now. Oh, my gosh, that's amazing. And she's interested in Van life and the whole thing. So I'm like, Okay, I'm going to ask all the questions. Yes, please do. So whenever I know that. I'm just trying to figure out if you're working like 60 hours a week, and like, how did you find the time to even go to the gym and even start down that process whenever, like, mentally and physically, you're just so exhausted?

Sam Alteri  16:18

That's a great question. I think about it now, like, I'm 31 now. And I'm like, How in the hell did I do that? Like, kind of crazy. But I think that, like, the real reason why I wanted to lose weight is because somebody had made a comment about me. And like, it was actually my boss. And she was like, you're a lot more fit than you look. And it really just like, was such a knife to the back. Because I knew that. Like I knew I was like overweight. I knew that I had like, a problem, but I was just avoiding it and ignoring it. And I think when she shared that with me, I there was part of me that was like, Oh, hell no. Oh, hell no. And I'm very determined like it that is definitely one of my strengths. And I remember just like, every day, I would literally go there, to kind of prove her wrong. It wasn't for me, the beginning of my journey was not for me, it was for her. And that was like, because I was seeing her everyday, right. So it was almost like I had this, like, resentment towards her. But I was like, Yeah, I literally like the Me, me getting super lean and fit and all that was like my big like, fuck you to her. And it was crazy as like, it turned into like an eating disorder. And like a lot of not good stuff, which I've now healed from. And now I actually like, specialize in helping them get out of that. But like, I've had a conversation with her recently, like, probably like a year ago, and I shared that with her. I was like, Do you know, like what you said, and we we actually talked about it, because it was like, I was like, thank you. Like, it obviously triggered the shit out of me. But like, you made you made me change, like, you made me take control of my life. So thank you. So be aware. Yes, and that and that, like, come on, like, really. But I am very, very grateful for that situation. Because I would not be where I am today without that little micro comment. But I think that's what drove me I was so like, I just, I was so I had such like, a vision for myself. And I basically like cut everything else out of my life. Like my life was either work or working out. That's what it was like I was single. And I didn't really have them any, like I had friends, right. But I definitely prioritize my fitness over everything. And I didn't, I wouldn't say I had a healthy relationship with fitness. But like, I went all in on it. And that was my personality, then like all or nothing. So I think it was kind of like, I had just had my blinders on to like, okay, fine, fine. And I just went for it. But it's, I guess it's the power of determination and really like deciding what's a priority? And for me, it was a priority.

Jamie Stephens  19:07

Yeah. So that's interesting that you say that it was like all or nothing, because I've heard you talk, I think the way I found you actually is some something you made about on Instagram about ADHD. So like, that seems like to be so focused, and then to have the ADHD that that just seems like counterintuitive. So is that like something that you've struggled with? And it's Tell me about that?

Sam Alteri  19:34

Yeah, so I mean, I think here's the thing, I think that like, like ADHD, it's not like something that you just like, get later in life. It's like you're born with it. But there's environments that help help minimize like symptoms, right or minimize, like how it shows up. And one of the biggest things for anyone with ADHD is having structure like you need structure in your life. And so that's great. When you're when you have a job, right when you have habits when you have rituals and routines, and so for me, my like, routine and my structure was go to work, go to the gym, and then go home. So it's like I couldn't avoid it like I like basically just like set myself up. And the way that I got motivated was by meeting people at the gym that like I actually liked, right. So it was like the community piece. That was what motivates me, like, that just got me excited to show up and like, feel part of something bigger than me when I was kind of feeling lost and like super unmotivated. And so I think that was the thing that kept me focused. And the fact that like, this is a physical transformation, so you can see it visually. So you can like stay the course, in a way because like, you're seeing the progress. And we're such visual people. So like, yeah, for me, that was like, and I just started to feel amazing, you know, and I was like, I was starting to like, well, myself, and I was like, Whoa, this is cool. Like, I think that was really it. It was like this addiction of like, I've never felt this empowered before in my entire life. Like I want to keep coming back here. I want to keep getting stronger. And I want to like see myself continuing to like get better. So I think that truly was like that overpowered any, like, lack of focus or whatever. Because at the end of the day, I still have ADHD, but I still go to the gym. And it's just a matter of like building the structure and routine in your life to support how you want feel.

Jamie Stephens  21:35

How are you managing that in combination with Van life? Like, have you thought that like exactly how your routines will be? Or like, like, yeah, out there, like a real structure?

Sam Alteri  21:49

Yes. So this is something that I have thought a lot about, because I'm like, this is probably the thing I'm the most I don't want to say nervous about but just like the most aware of like it could potentially go really self. So in a way I'm practicing what it's going to be like to live in the van now, by being so hyper vigilant about my morning routines around my evening routines. And just like, I mean, I have always been like super, I would say like, consistent with my morning routine, because I realized how like, I just don't get anything done. If I don't have my morning routine. And like I'm not grounded and organized and stuff. And so yeah, I think like, here's the thing, I work like three days a week, like I have a lot of space on my calendar, which I love. I love space, and I love freedom. But I still treat every day, like with intention, I guess, kind of like how I can think of it. And because I know like I'm such a hot mess. I'm all over the place. Everything is everywhere. If I don't, right, and I think that's the thing that kind of keeps me going. And it's what I imagined and hope that will keep me going in the van to is like, Okay, I'm going to wake up like, I'm going to go for our walk with our dog. And then I'm going to come back and then I'm going to do some journaling. And then like, right, and it's just like, and then and then and then and knowing like Okay, I did that. And even if that's the only thing I do today, like hell yeah. Yeah. At least I showed up for myself.

Jamie Stephens  23:32

Yeah. No, that's good. I mean, I think awareness is just a big part of that. I mean, I know I'm way off if I don't get my like morning meditation, and I mean, all other things. I'm just, I'm not a good person. And it's funny, because I wasn't always that way, which I'm sure you know, we aren't just born with morning routines. But once you develop something really like live for that, it makes it I mean, like whenever people just roll out of bed and like go to work. I'm just like, how do you even do that?

Sam Alteri  24:04

Yeah, well, that was me. Like that was me going to my architecture job. And then that was also me when I worked at the gym, I would literally get up and either like bike to work, or like run to work because I was waiting to the last possible second. But I also think that that was a sign of like, me not being happy. Yeah. You know, like, I wasn't happy I didn't want to get out of bed. And like, I think for everyone listening to if like you can relate to that. It's like okay, that's probably a sign that like the job you're in isn't the job because like it's not that I don't want to like like obviously I want to snooze my alarm in the morning right and obviously I want to sleep in like I love sleep but there's a level of like, excitement for the day that I now I have and it goes like it ebbs and flows depending on the season and I'm sure you can relate to that. But like I'm, I guess it's kind of just like sometimes I I forget that I'm not in that life, right? And like, like this morning, I stopped until 8am. Like, didn't do any of my, like, I slept, I went through every alarm. But I still was like, okay, I can just do my morning routine later. Right. And like, it wasn't a whole big deal in my mind, I guess. But yeah. So, I mean, I think the morning routine is like, super powerful. And it's like, how you start the day is how your day goes? At least that's how I've seen it for me and all my clients. Yeah, for sure.

Jamie Stephens  25:27

So when you were making the decision to be done with architecture, I mean, I'm imagining that there was a lot of internal struggle as far as like, Okay, I've put this much into my education, time, money, all of the things. I mean, were there, parents that you had to convince that you knew what you were doing, you know, that sort of thing, or how did you I mean, there's a lot of social pressure there. Like, if you're, like, I'm gonna go be a personal trainer, after you go to school forever to.

Sam Alteri  26:00

Totally, yes, there was so much actually, um, especially because I think I was like, one of the first people to do it, that I knew, like, that was like, in my school, or like, my age, I was like, pooping my pants. I remember. And honestly, the thing was, like, educate my education is I think I was always like, Okay, if I don't love this, I can just go back to architecture. Like I don't, this isn't like, once I've like, left, I don't have to leave forever. I can always go back. I think part of me because like, a lot of my school, I like use student loans. There was a part of me that totally was like, well, it's not real money anyways, right? Like, I kind of had that mindset. And I was like, I might as well be happy, like, my happiness was my priority. And I was like, whatever. Like, I had a great time. And it sounds and feels crazy, but I can't focus on that, or also never do it. And with my parents, so my mom has always been so supportive. She's always been like, You're crazy. Go for it. Like, which has been so, like, so important. Yeah. Yeah. She has never, like second guessed any, like, crazy business decision I've made or like any of that. She's always like, so trusting in me. And she's like, you're gonna figure it out? Like, I You're gonna be fine. And I'm like, Yeah, you're right. Like, sometimes we'll just like, borrow that belief. You know? My dad, on the other hand, I think he was like, way more, just like nervous for me, you know, like, out of love for sure. We didn't have a great relationship growing up. And since then, we've done like, a lot of work on it. But I didn't ask my parents, I was like, I don't need to ask you, if I want to leave, I was more just like telling them and being like, so yeah, I think I'm gonna do this thing. And they were just like, Okay. And I think it took them a little while to, like, let it sink in. But I think the hardest thing for me honestly, was owning my decision within my friend group, because like, everyone else was in design, whether it was architecture, or construction, or whatever. And I was literally like, the black sheep. Like, I couldn't relate to any of the conversations anymore. And it felt like I was like, isolating myself, you know, and that was like, that was really, really hard. And I think that honestly took me like, two years to get over truly, and it still affects me to this day, like, I still think about, like, all the friendships that I don't really have as much anymore. Because, like, we just don't have anything to talk about anymore. You know, and it's like, and that's okay. But I think for me, it's, that's been super hard to just, like, let go of those friendships or even just like, just let them be, you know, like, not need to, like always be nurturing them and like, pretending like we have something to talk about. So yeah, there was a lot of internal struggle, and I think, truly my, my ex boyfriend at the time, um, he was like, one of the main, like facilitators for me, actually. And like leaving, because he saw how unhappy I was. And he was like, You are such an inspiration to other people. Like, you can do this. You can 100% do this. You'd want 100% Do this. And he just kept like, reminding me because I did not like, it was never my job. Like my intention to leave. It really wasn't, I was miserable, but I didn't know what was going to happen. He was really a huge push for me. He was like, Sam, I will literally do whatever it takes to help you like make this decision. And I was just like, oh my god, like, and he was a huge part of my story. He knows it like we still we still chat time to time. But yeah, I think that was like the big push for me knowing that like the worst thing that could happen is I just go back like it's not the end of the world. I'm not going to die even though it really did feel like I was going to end up like dead and homeless under a bridge like I literally that's that's what it felt like, you know, like failing and getting rejected or like, not being able to make it and I think like just holding the face of like It's gonna be okay. I'm gonna be okay. Like, it's all gonna work out. And also having like so many moments of fear and disbelief and like, oh my god, what the hell did I just do? All sprinkled in there too.

Jamie Stephens  30:12

So tell me about the transition from like working in a gym personal trainer to what you're doing now? Because I know, obviously you're making the money that you weren't making an architecture now. Tell me how you replaced that income. Yeah. So

Sam Alteri  30:30

I found a online like community group before I made this plunge into the online coaching world. And I feel like I had a lot of mentors in positive influences that were successful. And I was basically just copying what they were doing. And which was like, putting out content every day, sharing content every day, no matter what, like, no matter if I was sick, no matter if I didn't feel like it. Like I showed up every day. And I remember not wanting to

Jamie Stephens  31:04

Yeah, okay, that in itself is a feat. I'm trying. That's where I'm at now. It's like, Oh,

Sam Alteri  31:11

yeah. And it's like, it took a lot of like me getting over like perfectionism and like, fear of being seen and fear of failure and feel of being rejected and like, all your fucking childhood trauma just surfacing? You know, I feel like that. That's our businesses, our businesses are literally like, our spiritual awakenings. Yeah. And I, I just did it, like, I stopped thinking about it, and I just did it. And I was like, Okay, if this dude who had he had, like, 500,000 followers on Instagram, it was crazy. Like, I don't know how much money he was making, it didn't matter. Because like, for me, it wasn't even money, it was more just like, just give me enough money. So I can exist. I just need to like, stay myself. And I did that. And I never asked for a sale. Never. Like, I didn't even know anything about selling. I didn't know anything about marketing. I didn't know anything about like, launching or programs, or any of that. All I did, this feels so crazy. Because all I did was post a piece of content a day. And then I had an application on my website, and then the application or the web, my website was in my bio. And that is all I had. And all I did was share content, share client results. And I always had a full roster of clients. It was crazy. Like, I also think I didn't have any limiting beliefs around money or like business yet, because I just started I was a total noob. I was just like, whoa. And it was great. I literally had such a full roster of clients that I couldn't handle it. And I was like, oh my god, I can't do this anymore. And then I had to kind of change my business model to be more of like group coaching. But what what ended up happening was like, I realized that truly my personal key to success is consistency. Like in all parts of my life, like I need to consistently eat vegetables, I need to consistently sleep I need to consistently show show up on Instagram, I need to consistently podcast like, because that's how we build trust. And that's how we build like safety with our people. And like, I have done a lot of things wrong in business, especially like because my heart has been more on helping people rather than making money. And then like it kind of, then I was like, oh, money, and then I got distracted, right? And then I was like more money. And then like this year, I was like, no, no, it's not even about that. And I had to like reel it back and like change my whole brain again. But I think truly like the root of it all is showing up every day and just giving one piece of valuable, like information, you know, and yeah,

Jamie Stephens  33:49

like when you say valuable information. Are you just referring to all of the things that you cover? Or were you talking personal, like realizations that you were having? Or were you sharing weight loss tips, or like what kind of value or like what kind of things were you doing? Asking for friends?

Sam Alteri  34:10

Yeah. No, of course, I'll give you all my secrets. So I've had my business for like a little over two years, the first year ish, full time in it, I was purely fat loss, like just fat loss. And that's all I was doing. I was giving sharing content for myself my own transformation, my clients transformations, how to lose weight, how to actually do it sustainably if you don't get it back. Like all these things evolving your healthy relationship with food, your mindset like all that so I will just share I would share something every day whether it was like how to not emotionally eat, which is like a big thing for people or like how to get yourself to go to the gym when you don't want to or like what to do in the gym, stuff like that. So I was like super special. to pick a niche when I started, which, if you're building, if you're building a business, it's like that's you have to start with something, even if you have a billion ideas and passions. So yeah, I was just sharing everything to do with that, like, basically one topic. And like little umbrellas were like, a little bit of my life like a little bit of real life stuff kind of behind the scenes.

Jamie Stephens  35:20

Yeah. No, that's fine. Yeah. So how you've gotten into the group coaching now, do you want to tell us a little bit about your unstoppable University?

Sam Alteri  35:32

Yeah, so I'll preface it with this, like, the reason why I left weight loss and fat loss was because it did more harm than good for me. I'm like in my own weight loss journey, not in the business. Now in unstoppable you and even in my other programs that are not business related, specifically, my clients lose weight, but it's not because they're trying to lose weight, if that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah, so basically unstoppable. Use everything I've learned since reading Tim Ferriss, four hour workweek to understanding trauma, understanding my own childhood wounds, understanding how to set boundaries, and like, know, your self worth and like, and all of that. In one, it's a group coaching program. And it's kind of like all the stuff that I wish I knew, before going on a weight loss journey, thinking that that was going to be the thing that brought me happiness. Yeah. So it's like, the mind, the body and the soul for business owners really is what it is. And most of the women inside of this program, or that have taken the program came to me because they basically didn't feel safe to be seen, like, they didn't feel like they could show up, maybe was on video or just like be who they be themselves, because maybe they don't know who they really are. Because their whole life, they've been kind of people pleasing, or trying to fit in or like chameleon eating. And so the program is like a self discovery program, and also like a purpose program. So really understanding like, what is it that you're here to do? And who are you because those two things, once you have those two things in your business, it's like, it's a reflection of you. And so my expertise lies in like building that personal brand. And like having people feel like connected to you through your business, which is like, the best thing in the world. So yeah, that program is like, hands down. My favorite thing. I mean, everything's my favorite, but like, I sound like El elf. Everything's my favorite. But I think unstoppable. You just have such a big place in my heart. Because like, it got me out of the depression, it got me out of anxiety, it helped me heal anxiety, like, Yes, I still have moments of being anxious and whatever. But I no longer hate myself. Like, there's no there's, there's this like whole nother level of self worth. And that's always like the biggest result in the program, which it's kind of just like about what we're talking about today. Even it's just like, knowing your worth it, knowing that your happiness is like the most important thing and like saying no to anything that's not a fuck, yes. Surely,

Jamie Stephens  38:24

well, is there anything else that you want to share? Or would be relevant? Yeah. So

Sam Alteri  38:29

I mean, a lot of women that are listening right now are in corporate jobs wanting to leave is that like, they're like, they're in this like, stage of like, go for it like, but for get out. I would say like, if I could give my old me that advice, it's like, have have a bridge job, which is what I did for that, like, you know, design and photography kind of on the side, so that you're not putting so much pressure on yourself to be successful. That way you can, you can serve and show up in your business from a place of like, overflow, you know, and I mean, secondly, it's like, find a mentor truly, like, I would not be where I am. Without all my mentors. I've invested a lot of money in mentorship. A lot. It's like, if you find somebody who is where you want to be. It's like, why wouldn't you want to buy their brain, you know, and I've just done that, like, every time I'm feeling like, Oh, I'm just feeling so stuck. Or like, I just, I want this thing, but I it's kind of just like it like the split energy. For me. The move is always like, Okay, I know that my next level lives. It's like it's there. But it's like, I just need somebody to believe in me more than I believe in myself. And that's what I do for my clients. It's like, I know you don't yet maybe fully believe in you, but I believe in you just borrow my belief. It's kind of like when my mom was like, You got it. I was like, yeah, they were my ex. I was like you Yeah, like, and I think that's truly like, how it works is like somebody else has to see you, before you see you, right? Like, I didn't see my potential, or I didn't see my skills or any of that. And I still don't, to the degree that other people do. Because, of course, I don't, you know, I see all my like flaws and blind spots and like things that I'm like, Oh my God. But one of the most invaluable things you could ever do is truly, like, have somebody who's on your team cheering for you, who's not your spouse, because they don't get it like, and you need an objective perspective. So I would say like, that is like my numero uno, like, recommendation, because you just bypass so many years of like, I don't want to say messing up, but, but yeah, like, it can be lonely, like leaving your job and starting a business can be really lonely. It has been for me, truly. And I'm in the process right now of creating a community for women like super low cost, like $55 a month, where people can be in the energy of this, like forward momentum, that's not gonna like break the bank, you know, because I think these like big investments, like while they're great, it also can be really freakin scary. If this is like, the first thing you've ever spent a lot of money on, you know, it can be like, who am I to, like, spend all this money on myself. So it's just like knowing like, you are worth it, you are worth investing in. And the thing I always tell myself, when I'm scared, because I'm in a phase right now, where I'm like, definitely scared. This thing on your heart is there for a reason. Like, they're your desires are not random, you know, like, they don't just pop in, and they're not just like hanging out with you, so that you can never fulfill them. They're there for you to step into and claim and it's gonna be on your heart for the rest of your life. Like, we only have one of those, you know, we only have one life. I mean, I'm sure there's afterlives, but at least right now, you know, like, we are safe right now. And I think that's where like our power really lies is in the present moment. And it's like, okay, I'm safe right now. That's what matters. Like, don't worry about tomorrow. Don't worry about next week, it will be okay. You've always survived, like you've always made it. And that's just it. It's like following that little voice of joy and of excitement. Because like, I think that's our guide. No, I mean, for me, it has to be with ADHD, or else I get too bored. But, I mean, life's about having having fun and enjoying it and like, not being stressed out worried all the time, you know, and obviously, we go through those phases like we're human, but that doesn't have to be the like, perpetual state. So trust that what you do want is really for you. It's not just something to be put on your vision board and ever actualized.

Jamie Stephens  43:01

I love that. Well, Sam, thank you so much. I know. You have a podcast and all of that. So if you want to give everybody the details of where they can find you and how they can learn more, that would be great. So

Sam Alteri  43:14

yeah, I have a podcast. It's just called the Samel theory show. And I'm on Instagram at Sam Altieri. That's mostly where I am. I just started a YouTube channel for everyone that for anyone that likes to like consume content visually. So you can just search my name in there, everything is a miltary across the board. But yeah, I would love to connect with you, if you resonated with this episode. That's like my favorite thing. I mean, social media is supposed to be social, but I think it's becoming a non social app. But like, I love going on social to actually connect with people. And it's been like, it's been so nice, getting to know you and DMS and just like chatting, and yeah, so like, my DMs

Jamie Stephens  43:54

are open. Awesome. Well, I can't wait to watch the the journey of the van life unfold and see how that goes. And I just, I think you're so much fun and your dance moves. Oh, oh,

Sam Alteri  44:06

thank you so much. Yeah, I feel like that's totally. It's like, if you can do this is the last piece of advice. Try dancing for two minutes every day, it will literally change your life. I know it sounds crazy, and it feels crazy. And you look crazy, but like it doesn't matter. It's like it's a really powerful way especially for women to tap back into their body and their power and their intuition and get out of their head. And that's how I lead my business is like my body my intuition like I don't do many things with my brain. Because it's like it just all feared nonsense in there.

Jamie Stephens  44:42

I just love her big thank you to Sam and all of her wisdom drops. I want to go over a few of the key takeaways because there are a lot in this episode. Number one Living for the Weekend takes a toll on both your mental and physical health. Don't be afraid to explore all your skills not just What you were trained to do. Number two, trust your gut, listen to your body and what it's telling you. Number three, you deserve to be treated as a whole person, not just a number without a soul. Check in with yourself and don't become the boiling frog. Number four. Be aware of your own personal challenges and create structure and routine around how you want to feel. Number five, treat every day with intention how you start your day is how your day goes. Set yourself up for success. Number six, make happiness your priority and own your decision. Number seven, healing yourself as the best thing you can do for your business. consistently showing up with value for others means we have to heal our childhood traumas and get over perfectionism, fear of being seen fear of failure and all the things number eight, know that you are worth it and say no to anything that is not a fuck yes. Number nine. Remove the pressure of success with a bridge job so you can show up and service your business from a place of overflow. Number 10. You are worth investing in. Find a mentor that truly sees you and borrow their belief. There's power and someone cheering you on to that next level and the desires of your heart are there for a reason. And here's a little bonus tip from Sam. Start your day with two minutes of dance and connect to your body. It's life changing. To learn more about Sam you can check out her podcast the SAM Altieri show that's al T ri. You can follow her on Instagram and YouTube at Sam l Terry, or check out her program for business owners unstoppable you on her website. All these are linked in the show notes. And if you're interested in following along on the van life, you can find her adventures with her fiance and her pup at Van life trio on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, as much as I enjoyed recording it, go ahead and forward it to a friend take a screenshot share it on stories rate and review on Apple iTunes or give me five stars on Spotify. These things really help the algorithm and help like minded people find the show. I appreciate you and I look forward to talking with you next time. Bye bye